Should I Tell My Partner Everything?

Telling the truth about one’s life is not an easy task for many people as a result of the consequences that come with it. Many have suffered rejection and stigmatization as a result of telling the truth. Yet, many are burdened with this question, should I tell my partner everything about me?

I want to start this article by sharing two stories I read recently that will help me to buttress my point well.

1. A man with no legs who hid his condition from his woman

A differently-abled man, identified as Jado, has narrated how he kept his disability from his fiancée until after their wedding out of fear that she may reject him.

The pair dated for two years before deciding to get married, but the bride was unaware that her groom had no legs.

Jado, who lost his legs in a bomb blast when he was a child, claimed he kept his condition from his wife out of fear she would reject him.

In a chat with Afrimax TV, Jadi said he kept his disability from his wife because of previous experiences with ladies who dumped him owing to his disability.

The bride, Bora, on her part, said she was shocked when she learned her husband has no legs because he always walked on artificial legs and she thought his inability to walk properly was due to a fracture.

According to her, she discovered the truth after their wedding, yet she was not angry or disappointed with her husband after he explained the reason behind his action.

The couple recounted how the bride’s family advised her to end the marriage after they also learned of Jado’s condition.

At the time they granted the interview, they had been married for eight months and declared that it was the best thing they had ever experienced.

2. A woman with a penis that hid her condition from her man

A heartbroken man narrated how he discovered his wife has a male private part on their wedding night.

According to the Ghanaian man, he and his wife dated for three years before they walked down the aisle, but he had no idea she was a hermaphrodite because they never got intimate.

However, on the night of their wedding, he claims he felt something strange and, to his amazement, saw both male and female organs, which she never once mentioned.

“Yesterday was my honeymoon…I dated this lovely girl for three years before we got married, for us, we believe in chastity so we decided to have no intimacy whatsoever. When we met in the room on the wedding night, then she started giving excuses…My wife has a penis, she has both, she’s a hermaphrodite, now I’m confused I don’t know what to do”. He said in part.

I shared this story so that this article will be a balanced one and also so it doesn’t like it’s a one-gender phenomenon. Both genders are guilty of this.

Deducting from the two stories, it’s clear that one of the major reasons why they hide some truths from their partners is so that they will not be rejected.

Whatever the case, that is deception. When one enters marriage by deception, there is already a crack in the wall of the marriage. It will take special efforts for such a marriage to survive in the long run.

There are consequences for every action. A lady can’t be engaging in premarital sex and committing abortions that eventually damaged her womb and then hide such information from her prospect simply because he will reject her.

Yes, he is likely to reject her. She will suffer rejection for a while because not every man will accept her in that condition, that is one of the consequences of her actions. She can’t eat her cake and have it.

In the case of the lady above who is a hermaphrodite, it was not her fault that she was born that way. It was a natural occurrence.

But the best she could have done is to explain her ordeal to the man who may likely accept her. If you watch the interview, the man was shocked and confused.

This is someone who dated you for 3 years without having sex with you or getting intimate with you, yet she hid such vital information from him, that is deceptive. The same thing with the man with no legs.

There is no point in hiding such vital information when the person will eventually find out. And many people will end such a marriage because it was founded on deceit.

The answer is a capital YES!

Tell your partner the truth about you, anyone that doesn’t accept you is not meant for you.

To avoid future regrets and also having a failed marriage which always leads to a complicated life, tell your partner the truth before it becomes too late.

If you don’t have a womb as a result of multiple abortions or medical procedures, tell!

Do you have a baby with someone somewhere tell?

Are you deflowered, tell?

You are impotent and you cannot impregnate a woman, tell?

If you are suffering from erectile dysfunction, tell!

Do you have no legs like the man in our story or any other form of deformity, tell?

If you are a hermaphrodite, please tell.

Anything you know that will cause a future problem in the marriage, tackle it now.

Why Should I Tell My Partner Everything?

1. To avoid future regrets

You are going to regret it if you enter marriage through deception, one way or another you will face the consequences.

2. To avoid a lack of trust

Deception breeds a lack of trust. When you deceive your partner into marriage and he or she later finds out the truth, trust is lost and no marriage will survive without trust. Trust is the bedrock of marriage.

It is not easy, to tell the truth, but it pays in the long run. It makes your partner trust you, it enhances trust.

3. To avoid having a failed marriage

Not everyone will continue to be married to you after finding out the truth, most of them will divorce you and that always leads to a complicated situation.

4. To give your partner the benefit or opportunity to make an informed decision

Your prospective partner should know you for who you are and accept you for the same. It is better to marry someone that knows the truth about you yet chooses to stick with you.

Tell your partner the truth so that he or she will make an informed decision. Let your partner accept you for who you are. Anyone that cannot accept you for who you are is not meant for you.

5. You will enjoy peace and tranquillity within

Telling the truth will get you relieved, your conscience will applaud you, you will have peace of mind, there will be tranquillity within, and you will live with no anxiety having been truthful.

6. Your partner will love and trust you more for being truthful

When you are truthful, you will earn the love and trust of most people. Your partner most of the time will come to love and trust you the more for being truthful.

In conclusion

Should I tell my partner everything about me? You have the answer now. Yes! Tell the truth! The benefits far outweigh the benefits(if there are any) of not telling the truth.

In the words of Jesus, “… you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.”(John 8:32 NIV)

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Should I Tell My Partner Everything?