Are you tired of being single for a long time? Are you tired of heartbreaks? Are you fed up with promises and failures from men? Do you desire a man you can call your own? Are you concerned that you are not getting any younger? Do you want to get married? If your answer is “Yes” to any or all of the above questions, in this article I will show you ways to attract your dream man.
Some time ago, a lady posted on social media that it bothers and gives her concern that she is yet to settle down in marriage at her age. When I read that my heart went out to her. I was touched.
Another lady posted a video of herself crying that men don’t approach her, no man has ever asked her out, that she’s lonely and other things she said. When I saw the video, my heart went out to her too.
Recently, a lady messaged me on WhatsApp and said, “I am 40yrs single. I don’t have a relationship at present but am trusting God to be settled maritally. I sincerely want to be settled maritally by God’s help sir, I believe God can use you to help this purpose come to pass sir. God bless sir.”
My heart was touched when I read the message and I wished I could just provide a husband for her immediately. Her message inspired this article. I decided to write an article to provide some guidelines on how you can attract your dream man.
Like the cases of these ladies, many ladies out there also have the same desire to settle down maritally, they want a man they can call their own, and they want a man that will love and care for them.
A lot of ladies have this desire but hardly express it for fear of being termed desperate or being used and exploited by guys. There’s nothing wrong with desiring to have a man of your own. Don’t feel bad about it and don’t allow anyone to shame you because of it.
What I intend to do in this article is to show you ways you can attract your dream man, a good and responsible man without appearing desperate. I will be using the advice that Naomi gave Ruth, her daughter-in-law, that made her attract and marry Boaz, a godly and wealthy man.
Examples communicate principles. When you walk in the footprints of successful people, you’re walking into your success. You will find this advice in the book of Ruth chapter 3 but my emphasis will be on verses 3 and 11 and then, I will add other things.
It says, “Wash, put on perfume, and get dressed in your best clothes. Then go down to the threshing floor, but don’t let him know you are there until he has finished eating and drinking. And now, my daughter, don’t be afraid. I will do for you all you ask. All the people of my town know that you are a woman of noble character.”(Ruth 3:3, 11 NIV)
As a lady, it is not your job to look for a husband, it is a man’s duty. The Scripture says, “he that FINDS a wife…” not she that FINDS a husband. (Proverbs 18:22) Another reason is that only a few men appreciate ladies that throw themselves at them.
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Another crucial reason you should not look for a husband is that you don’t get exploited, used, devalued, and cheapened by men. When a man perceives that you’re desperate for marriage, he may promise you marriage to have his way with you. A man is a hunter and he values what he got through some effort and sweat.
It is not your job to look for a husband, your job is to position yourself to attract your dream man and husband, and your duty is to station yourself where you can be found.
7 Ways To Attract Your Dream Man
1. Maintain a personal hygiene
“Wash put on perfume…” Naomi told Ruth. That was the first principle she taught her. In other words, you have to be neat and smell nice. Neatness is attractive. And because of how God fashioned your body as a lady, neatness is not something you should be joking with.
In your quest to attract your dream man, you need to maintain personal hygiene because no one will have anything to do with a dirty person. People avoid someone that is dirty and smells badly. Wash and perfume yourself, be neat, and smell nice. Body odour is offensive and repulsive. Apply body spray, deodorant, Roll on, and perfume.
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2. Maintain a good fashion sense
“Get dressed in your best clothes…” Naomi told Ruth. Your appearance is the first thing people see about you, this includes your hair, your clothes, your bag, and your shoes. Your dress speaks volumes. It can make you look smart and young. The way you dress will also make you look dumb and older than your age.
Men are visual, this means they are moved by what they see. No man wants to marry or get attracted to an old woman. Stop dressing like an old woman meanwhile, you are a young lady if you desire to attract your dream man. Take care of your hair. Stop tying a scarf or wearing a beret every time. Plait your hair and flaunt it. Allow men to see it.
3. Be Visible
“Then go down to the threshing floor” is another important piece of advice Naomi gave Ruth. Boaz did not meet Ruth in her room. He first saw her in the field and then later on the threshing floor. I read an interesting story recently. A man was worried that her accomplished daughter was getting old without a husband. He complained about this to his friend and his friend experimented with her daughter. The story is interesting, you can read it here.
You want to get married but hide yourself in the secret place of your room and comfort zone. You don’t attend church service, you don’t belong to any department of the church, after church service, you go home immediately without mingling with the brethren, you don’t attend functions, weddings, seminars, and birthdays, you always book Uber or bolt, and you don’t mingle with the public, don’t worry my sister, Angel Gabriel, the Heavenly Messenger will send you a husband through heavenly dispatch.
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Brothers of Jesus told him one day that a man that wants to be a public figure doesn’t hide himself in the secret, therefore they advised him to show Himself to the world. (John 7:4)
A woman that wants to get married does not hide herself in the secret, you must be visible where men can see her. It is when men see you that they can approach you. show yourself to the world. Stop hiding. If you must attract your dream man, you must position yourself where you can be found. Be visible and.
4. Be Approachable and Accessible
If you desire to attract your dream man, you must be approachable and accessible. To be approachable, you have to be visible because it’s someone that is visible that can be approached, you have to also be welcoming. Many ladies build a hedge of fire around themselves and the wall of Jerusalem and yet they still expect men to come close.
When you always frown on your face or react angrily when a man approaches you, how do you hope to attract your dream man? Stop frowning your face. Always put a smile on your face, it’s a sign of welcome. Smiling is attractive.
You must also be accessible. Many of you ladies don’t reply to your DM. Many of you boast about the number of messages from men you have in your inbox. Your husband may be among them. Reply to your inbox. Be accessible.
5. Work on your character
“All the people of my town know that you are a woman of noble character,” Boaz told Ruth. Everyone knows that you are a Virtuous woman. Ruth was a good girl and that was what informed Boaz’s decision to marry her.
Your neatness, fragrance, beauty, appearance, visibility, and shape will attract a man to you but it is your character that will determine his next step, whether or not to move forward with you. The character of a woman is one of the important things a man looks out for in a woman he wants to settle down with. What are people saying about you?
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Work on your character. Character is always the beauty of a woman. Beauty without character is like a gold ring in a swine pit. Character attracts your dream man and husband more to you than anything else.
If you like to bathe 5 times a day, empty a bottle of perfume on your body, wear your Christmas dress, and put yourself on the advert but if you don’t have character, you will find it difficult to attract a responsible man.
If you like to bathe 5 times a day, empty a bottle of perfume on your body, wear your Christmas dress, and put yourself on the advert but if you don’t have character, you will find it difficult to attract a responsible man.
So, in addition to your neatness, good fragrance and nice dress, and visibility, add character to it. Tell yourself the truth about your bad character. If it were you, would you marry someone like you? Stop saying that men should accept you the way you are when you have a bad character and work on yourself.
Good character can make others recommend you to others. Good character can open doors for you, not just the door of marriage.
6. Add value to your life
No man wants a liability for a wife. Don’t sit around waiting for a husband to come. You will wait for a long time. Boaz did not meet Ruth while she was idle, he met her while she was in the field WORKING.
While you hope to attract your dream man, add value to your life. Boaz told Ruth that you are a woman of noble character and when you check Proverbs 31, you will fully understand what a woman of noble character means, that’s a valuable woman.
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Look for something and do with your life, don’t sit and wait for a man to come before you do something meaningful with your life. Go to school and acquire that degree, learn a skill, and start a business. Most of the time, your dream man will meet you at your place of work.
7. Pray about it
“The Lord God said, “It is not good for man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” (Genesis 2:18 NIV)
“Look in the scroll of the Lord and read: None of these will be missing, NOT ONE WILL LACK HER MATE. For it is his mouth that has given the order, and his Spirit will gather them together. (Isaiah 34:16 NIV)
“Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives; the one who seeks finds; and to the one who knocks, the door will be opened. (Matt. 7:7-8 NIV)
“Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done.” (Philippians 4:6 NLT)
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These Scriptures are all God’s promises concerning your life, take them to Him in prayer and remind Him of His promises. Pray about it. God is a loving and caring father and no father wants his daughter to remain unmarried or to marry a bad man. Pray and tell God to send you your dream man.
In Conclusion
There is nothing that beats having someone you can call your own, someone that has your back, someone you can spend every moment of your life with. With the application of these 7 principles, you can be sure to attract your dream man.
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