How To Know If Someone Truly Loves You

How do you know if someone truly loves you? What are the signs that show someone loves you? Are you confused and in doubt if your partner loves you? Do you want to know if someone truly loves you?

If these are the questions going on in your mind right now, then this article will help you to know the signs someone truly loves you. It will help you to know if you have been wasting your time with the person with whom you are currently in a relationship. It will also help you to know if your partner truly loves you.

Over the years of counselling, people have asked me tons of times, “How do I know if someone truly loves me?” People want to know if their partners love them as they said.

Just last night a guy asked me, “How does someone truly know that his girlfriend loves him?” A lady asked me some time ago, “What are the things a man should do to his woman to show that he loves her and wants to settle down with her?”

The Story Of A Heartbroken Lady

A lady told me about a year ago that she is the kind of person that whenever she loves a person, she loves hard and gives her all to make the person happy.

She was in a relationship with a guy. She loves the guy so much and gives her all to make the relationship work and also to make the guy happy.

But the guy rarely reciprocates all that she was doing. He doesn’t give her attention and doesn’t call or chat as he is supposed to. To get his attention, she created unnecessary drama and got into a fight with the guy.

Consequently, the guy broke up with her. She was left heartbroken. At the point of counselling her, she asked me a question that touched the innermost part of my being: “Is it fair?”

I felt for her. If only she knew that the guy didn’t love her. If only she knew the signs that someone truly loves you.

It’s not fair to love and give your all to someone you love but cannot get the same treatment. She told me that she wants to stop loving hard and giving her all because people are taking advantage of that to hurt her.

I counselled her that she should not change her loving and sacrificial personality because of people, that it was not her fault that she loves hard and gives her all, it’s just that she hasn’t met the right person yet. The right person will love and give her the needed attention and care.

Sadly, a lot of people are in a relationship with those that do not love them, are taking advantage of them, wasting their time, and causing them pain.

Someone said, “Love is not silent. If love is involved, it’ll be clear enough for you to see. It doesn’t put you in two minds; it comes with certainty & assurance. It’s like a light that gushes into a dark room; love is never a secret. If it can be hidden or covered, it’s not love. Love is loud.”

In other words, when someone loves you, there will be signs and pieces of evidence that show it, you will not be in doubt and confused.

What I intend to do in this article is to show you various signs you will notice when someone truly loves you.

In the end, you will evaluate your current relationship to find out if your partner truly loves you and also to know the next step forward.

Signs Someone Truly Loves You

1. Attention

When someone truly loves you, you don’t need to beg for, create drama or get into a fight with your partner to get his or her attention, on the contrary, the person that loves you will give you attention. It will come naturally.

You give attention to something important to you, you are interested in, and occupies your heart and mind.

When someone is not giving you attention, it may be a sign the person doesn’t love you or finds you interesting. When someone is interested in you, you will know and feel it because the attention will be there.

Does he give you attention? Does she give you attention? One sure way to know this is, does he or she have your time?

2. Time

Someone that truly loves you will have time for you. Anyone that doesn’t create time to be with you is not into you, he or she doesn’t love you.

Nobody has time, we create time for important things. No matter how busy or tight the schedule is, we create time for important things. We create time to eat, sleep, socialise, work, surf the internet, etc.

We have time for everything, so anyone that doesn’t create time to be with you is not into you. Stop begging people to make time for you. If they consider you important, they will create time for you, and if they didn’t create time for you it’s a sign the person doesn’t love you.

3. Care

According to Merriam-Webster’s Dictionary, care is defined as follows, responsibility for or attention to health, well-being, and safety; to have an interest or concern for; attention accompanied by protectiveness and responsibility; responsibility for the safety and well-being of someone or something.

Care also means things that are done to keep someone healthy, safe, and in good condition. We care for things we love.

If someone truly loves you, he will care about your well-being, he will make efforts to ensure that you are safe, comfortable and in a good condition, she will care about your personal growth, he will call you to check up on you and to know how you’re doing, how your day is going, etc.

In most cases, he or she will spend his or her resources to ensure you are good, safe, comfortable, and in a good condition. Someone that doesn’t care about your well-being does not love you.

4. Constant Communication

Someone asked me recently, “Please sir, is it good to be communicating with your partner all the time? I answered that it is very important to communicate with you all the time.

Communication is the lifeblood of every relationship. It is the backbone and the bedrock of every relationship. Once there’s no communication there’s no relationship. Once communication between two people begins to drop, something is wrong somewhere, it is a sign that interest is beginning to drop.

When someone claims to love but rarely communicates with you, it is a sign the person is not into you. If someone says he loves you but for the past 2 days, one week, one month thereabout you haven’t heard from him, he doesn’t love you.

Hearing the voice of who you love is a delight. When you love someone, when you are interested in a person, when you are into a person, you will also love to hear from the person.

Someone that truly loves you will want to hear from you all the time, he will be in constant communication with you, he will call you, he will chat with you, he will text you as the case may be. If he or she doesn’t communicate with you constantly, they are not interested, they don’t love you.

5. Giving

A lady told me recently, “I have known this guy for over 3 years and he hasn’t spent or taken care of me for a day. Yet he keeps saying he loves me.”

Love gives. One of the signs that someone truly loves you is giving. When someone loves, he or she gives you and when you truly love someone, you will also give. There cannot be love without giving.

If someone rarely gives you things, it may be a sign the person does love you aside from the fact that he or she may be stingy. When someone truly loves you, he will give you gifts, money, material things, etc., even when you didn’t ask.

The gift doesn’t have to be much or expensive. It’s not about the size of the gift that counts but the thought behind the gift. For someone to give you something shows they have been thinking about you, they have your best interests at heart. It feels good to know that someone is thinking of you to the extent of getting a gift for you.

6. Sacrifice

The person that claims to love you, how often does he or she go out of his way to make sure your needs are met? How often does he sacrifice for you? What has she done for you that cost her something?

There can be no love without sacrifice. If someone tells you that he or she loves you but can’t make sacrifices for you, the person is lying. Love is sacrificial. Love is responsibility. As a matter of fact, sacrifice is the hallmark of love.

If they love you, they will sacrifice things for you, they will sacrifice their resources, and time, and leave their comfort zone for you.

7. Effort

Love is not one-sided. Someone that truly loves you will make an effort to love you, you won’t be the only one that is giving attention, showing care, creating time, communicating, giving, sacrificing, and making an effort.

When you are in a relationship with someone you beg for attention, don’t show care, don’t create time for you, don’t communicate constantly, don’t give, don’t make an effort, etc., the person doesn’t love you.

As you’re putting your energy into the relationship, you should also feel the energy of your partner, if you’re not feeling the energy, the love is not there. Love is supposed to be mutual.

In Conclusion

It’s not difficult to know when someone truly loves you, you will have attention, care, time, communication, giving, sacrifice, and effort, if these signs are not there the person does not love you.

With these signs, you will be able now to easily evaluate your relationship and know where you are standing and the step forward.

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